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Why I started this blog?

I started this blog because it was a requirement and part of an assignment for one of our academic units, online journalism. I must admit that initially I was doing it for the sake of earning a score for my examination. Not once did it ever cross my mind that this space will provide me with an opportunity to writing what I resonate with in my every day to day life. That this platform would be an avenue to pour out your mind and emotions as a way of dealing with stress.

This blog is meant to educate, inform and entertain you. I write about things that happen around us and we can easily identify ourselves with. I write about stuff that both directly and indirectly affect us. I am looking forward to making it even more Interesting by incorporating NEWS on this blog. Feel free to read my posts, comment on them, add and subtract when you feel like it. Criticize where possible. Thank you for paying audience to my writings ❤❤. Come and Let’s take this adventure!

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FACILE POLITICAL DECISIONS

I’m as interested as every disinterested Kenyan in knowing the individuals behind the lower food prices hashtag. Can we be candid with our own selves? Aren’t we the same people who entertain all these crap every electioneering period? How deteriorated are our memories? Do we suffer from amnesia? We have never United and collaborated to seek accountability and we will continue rallying behind sponsored hashtags and committing the same suffrage mistakes!  Instead of bustling under this facetious hashtag, let’s unite at the ballot and vote the desired economic change we all want. It all starts at the ballot! Our current austerity is a result of our poor taste in leaders. It’s time to be meticulous with who we want to lead us and make Cadillac economic and financial decisions on our behalf.

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PLEASE

I hope you can look straight into people’s eyes and read their sadness. I hope you can point out their enduring pain and lessen their suffering. While at it I hope you can speak up and share what is weighing you down into the tomb despite how grave the problem or suffering might seem to share. When you finally find peace I hope it is in rest and not while resting in peace because of withholding and suppressing accumulated pain and suffering. Collaboratively we can reduce the burden and prevent suicide ❣️

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FAR

There, exists life on the far end
There, air is not compromised
And soil is optimised
If you want to breath and dream again,
Take a leap of faith and hop on the train
There, reigns peace, you are at ease
All you need is a ticket
A ticket to detoxify and renew
Restore lost energy, dream afresh
Rekindle love and the adventure that once resided in you!

Power dwells in you
Key is unlocking the padlocks
Emancipation is in daring the invincible wings
Fly to greater heights for clarity
Infinite possibilities are achievable
Transformation is charming on you
Braveity and authenticity where there is will
So go as far as you can on your way
And LIVE! LEAVE behind unvisited regrets and failure

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PEACE

Tonight make peace with yourself. Forgive yourself first before you even think of forgiving those that have trespassed against you. Inherent calmness and peace is what you need more than you could ever imagine. Exude confidence and love yourself more to not overstay in disappointments and betrayals
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FITNESS

A fitness journey that only you can intrinsically embark on before physically kick-starting and staying consistent. You are as physically fit as your mental fitness!
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HEALING AND FORGETTING

what should come first? Healing or forgetting? Is there any chronological order? We all have gone through something that has required we heal and forget for peace’s sake. The burden of holding grudges against those that hurt you weighs down on you till you realize you’re loosing yourself to the grave.

My attention has been drawn out of the two, almost similar, stories I’ve been reading that effortlessly triggered tears to dance in all the corners of my eyes despite the resistance to let them out. To what extent would one be willing to go to to protect his or her family’s reputation? Has reputation blinded us this much that we have to allow our kids suffer under our own watch without speaking up on immoral vices immediate family members take them through?

One is of a young Muslim girl who repeatedly got molested by her male cousin that her parents had entrusted her to be her care taker. Watch over her, guide her and protect her. He took advantage of her continuously since childhood till high school and being a child she felt it was normal and very okay since the cousin who was older than her told her it was a tradition when she asked him. What would you have done as kid? When your grown family member tells you it’s a custom and there’s nothing wrong with whatever evil and harm they are causing you.

She later on, while in high school, learnt it was not right and she decided to speak out to the family but it is saddening that even her own parents who ought to be protecting her shun her and warned her against ruining the family’s good reputation 🥺🥺. To what length should we protect an image and reputation of a family? This is a matter that should have been delt with the moment this girl came out to narrate all about what she had been going through since she was left under the guidance of a cousin. She now carries a heavy burden within her, a burden that she’s not responsible for, she was a child that should have been protected. She wishes she never existed, she cannot move forward because of this one obstacle, an obstacle her parents would have gotten out of her way by accepting they made a mistake by trusting someone in the name of a family member to be the one to take care of her and spend most of his time with her.

Tell me how to live with such a big scar? A scar you keep seeing in family gatherings and events. Overly feeling dirty and disgusting when it was entirely not your fault. When the predator is not even remorseful for the damage he’s caused you and you’re forced to even attend his wedding. Parents should do better! If a father or a mother can defile their own children, who is a cousin to leave a child in their care? Parents should keep a close watch on their kids and listen to them when they speak about something unusual and not just listen but act upon such serious matters.

How do you advise such a hurt person to forgive and forget about a life time of defilement? The images of the act come dashing and flashing in her head and she can’t get over the bad things that were done to her. Can such a person heal? She will heal definitely once she makes a pact with herself that she wants to love herself and forgive herself for thinking that it was her fault when it entirely was never her fault all that time. In the meantime I’d allow her to feel however she wants to feel but I’d never want her to take away her life for feeling filthy, she will probably never forget about the whole ordeal but she can heal at her own pace, not a counsellor’s pace.

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NOT ENOUGH!

Don’t worry, Oh!  aa. aah you should be worried about every damn thing. Where do I start? Which angle should I take? Okay. Have you ever felt you’re not enough or you do not measure up to a task? You continuously doubt yourself, your ability and strength. You think you’re not good enough so you self loath and vitriol inherently. Fear has seduced you and you have undeniably become focal point lovers.

Vide,  I am a victim and for years I’ve been battling the ubiquitous unspoken feeling of not measuring up to and not being the right fit. Please be kind to people, be cautious or mindful of your choice of words to express to people. I have been a slave to this war because of one comment from someone who should have guided me that time, it’s vivid and I still hold it dear as if it pays my bills. So this lecturer asked why I was choosing journalism as a career and I confidently said “I want to become a news anchor or a reporter.”  “Do you think you have the looks or the body for it?” he asked. Tha latter has ever since trounced me and no matter what strides I keep making I stop in my head to tell myself I am not fit, I don’t have the face for it, neither do I have the body for the task.

I feel I let this into my system so much that it affected my courage. I doubt every other person who compliments, I am beautiful! The mean voice at the back of my mind reiterates how less and unattractive I am. My life is inertia. I am disappointed in myself, for procrastinating my growth, my success. Fear presides over my life and I badly want to write it off. I am tired of being mean to myself, vilifying own self. I honestly would not wish to be the reason for someone’s daily self doubt and vitriol. In a world full of bestiality, I choose to be generous with my words, to encourage, build and not to shatter dreams.

Think of it, how often do we allow other persons’ mean words get to us? We abandon the initial goal, our success deja vu, the path to our stardom and debut and relent to inconsiderate and selfish people. We create more room for doubt and fear. We push away people with pure intentions because of facile comments that were once said to us by people with sinister motives. We’ve shut destiny and success doors failing to realize they were rightfully meant for us. How many times have you ignored that job advertisement because you feel you are not the best fit, you’re not worth it? So you intentionally refuse to give it a shot? Sooo many times!

It is time to reclaim our goals and restore our resilience towards our success. It is going to take extra energy but we ought to liberate ourselves from the chains of doubt and pity. Emancipate ourselves from this bondage of allowing people demean us, troddle over us and have their way as they please. You see there are other people who will effortlessly pound weakness on you and feel happy about it. I know you will start with, oh, you shouldn’t easily be willing to let vitriol access your system! Hold on! The more reason for this trouncing over me was because of two male friends who had no idea they were confirming hurtful words that were once said to me. In comparison with another female friend of mine, they said, “Don’t take this the wrong way, between you and so and so, a man will choose, not her name, Clare for a girlfriend. You understand?” Which I understood to be as she is more beautiful and pretty than you so a man will choose her for they can show her off as a girlfriend. They went ahead to say that if they would be looking for a wife then it would be me they’d go for.

That was a confirmation they had made to me, unknowingly. A nail on a healing scar I had battled for a time to heal. The fresh pain from their comments exceeded the initial pain despite the first mean words being said to me in front of my classmates during a lecture. The fact that I have wrote this after years tells you I’m willing rise above all the doubt and strife. I want to end seeking validation from people. What I think of myself and innately tell myself is more important than what other people tell me. I don’t have to prove anything to anyone but to myself. That I still have time to start over and be generous to thyself. I can choose, for I have power, to either give leverage or not to the readily available selfish sentiments from people. I can choose not to feed on bile. I can be and do better than this.

What you feed your system is what you become, and I purpose to feed it with life, healthy life for that matter. Spread your wings, and close your ears to nay sayers and hurtful cohorts. It is time to bestir and pay close attention to successful vistas without compromise. Find a why to live, is it family? That job? That love? And you shall truly bear with any how. Starting today, you should be worried about caring about what is said to you by others.

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IF I HAD THE POWER AND RESOURCES…

I hope by the time you are getting hold of your gadget to go through this article you are safe and as I’ve always stated, sane. It is obvious its not easy for everyone of us, if you happen to still have your job intact and your full salary, unslashed, credited in your bank account, count yourself amongst the Almighty’s most blessed lot!

Those on antidepressants: My thoughts go out to you and wish that you find your purpose and ubiquitous reasons to want to live for. I hope you find closure! In all the adversities may you smile in the end for having endured and stayed strong when you didn’t know the outcome and didn’t have it figured out.

I’m amongst the cohort that has been struggling to grip upon anything forthcoming to clear my overstaffed head with a myriad of WHYS, BUTS, WHENS, WHERES, HOWS etcetera. I’m not writing this because I already resolved my situation nor eased my head, NO. During a talk with one friend of mine, I posed the question how he’s able to have it under control even when he knows it’s escalated and out of his control, incapable of holding it together and he said ” Ruth it is the same affair everywhere, we fight on! Get hold of something you will smile and your heart melts at while busy at it. To pass and override the pitying, worrying, frustrating, and regretting time.” But I’d interrupt with how was my LOVE for writing and reading going to pay my bills? Interjecting, “Also pray” he continued ” No one is certain but this could be the start for something meaningful. Something that could build your portfolio to be presented at an interview or even included on your resume”

Preceding his words was a recommendation from yet another friend who had suggested I stock my pieces as I save for a commercial website that will at least earn me a cent. A website he’d offer to create at a friendly price. An idea I’d put into consideration and act upon when ready. I am deviating from the initial purpose of this post and I wouldn’t wish to loose its meaning.

This piece is for those individuals, I’d be more than willing to stretch out my hands and give the support you are currently looking for. I wish I had the power and all the needed resources to pull you out of your current situations. All I can do is empathize with you, it’s all I can go out of my way to offer you. My ears, my shoulders are all I can give you for the meantime. My prayers too, Yegon was right! It’s what has been my major source of strength. A few individuals who also went out of their way to listen, to talk to me and offer a hand are the cause of my current peace of mind and sanity. I pray for people with pure intentions, who are more than willing to support you, into your life. This is a phase, like gold, you are being molded into a resilient individual that doesn’t get swept away by the tormenting storm. You are only being challenged to test your endurance longevity and you are going to pass the test.

Pen down your pain, sing it out if you can, walk it, run it, craft it, cry it or pray it. Whichever best way that suits you, do it! All are coping mechanisms for different people. Don’t hurt yourself, think of a way you can transform that pain into a beautiful embodiment you will live to love for the rest of your life. Get out of the pity party, shun conversations that remind you of your pain or add to your pain. Cut people that intentionally ruin or spoil your vibe and energy. Free your spirit to explore hidden treasures and potential. You are magnificent at what you set your mind and soul to do. Believe that there’s no other better version of you than you. Surrender all that you’ve got no control over and quit battles that aren’t yours but for the supernatural force. Your life is or has been orchestrated and your destiny is one you must get to.

When we finally find the resources and power to help others, we will look back not at how our asses were profusely flogged by misery but at how much we were able to take, strived on and unapologetically found our purpose to which we will be living to.

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BEFORE SAYING I DO!

This is one vast erea of exploration we all would automatically, gladly grab a seat to listen and contribute one or two things based on what we’re predisposed to. Before you say I do, before walking down that aisle or moving in together if you choose not to walk on the aisle, during courtship and the period of getting to know each other. It is very important for the two of you to talk about a myriad of things that will affect the both of you later in your life if you all choose to turn a blind eye to this crucial stage where you ought to gain insightful information that will be of great help to your union.

A photo of two mature people in love captured during dusk.

Wow! I just talked like a successful married woman 😱😂😂. God willing and given His divine grace, that’s where I’m heading. Don’t we all want or yearn for a successful, peaceful and super marriage? I personally do and I’m claiming it!

I feel generous enough to share this information after another generous close person to me shared the same with me and I found it insightful and useful for any individual interested in getting married some day. The message is anointed and it comes from a Catholic priest who has packaged the info so well that you’d love it yourself. I’m not going into much details, I will instead give you an overview of what one should be open minded to expect and be willing to talk about before saying “I DO”

The very very first thing you should talk about and get informed of is why you are getting married. Clearly there are so many reasons as to why people get married. Do you know why you want to get married? Why now or in the future? Do you know why the person you want to settle down with? Do you want a wedding or no, why? 😰 Yeaaasss💪 see how you posed there! It is scary that you just want to marry for no reason but love, right? Dig deep and establish good reasons why you want to get married and why to the person you have chosen. Don’t marry at a young age and not at a way too old age! Discuss all these between the two of you.

Other things up for discussion are finances, who will be the leader and controller, friends and in-laws, children, work, family background or history of your partner, religion and I intentionally left out sex because it is one most feared topic and it is one major course of separations and divorce in marriages that you should always talk about and agree on. If a partner says sex is for the sake of children, that marriage is going into the gutter, meaning after you’ve gotten the agreed number of children, there’s no sex. Sex is meant for companionship!

Marriage should not be a trial and error thing, so get to know why you want to get married before getting into it. The background or history of your partner is also very important as certain things are genetic and can be inherited from the ones who came before your partner in the family rank, such as witchcraft, adultery, polygamy or international seed sowing. If not well discussed, it could cause you so much trouble in your marriage. About finances; who pays for what? Do you open a joint account? You should hold discussions on how money should be effectively spent. Many marriages break because of financial issues which is again an important facet to bear in mind and talk about.

Talk about friends of your partner, do you know them? If you know them, then how much information do you know about them? This might look basic but if you ignore it, some friends could be the cause of problems in your marriage and so will the in-laws. All these people might influence some of the decisions your partner might make while married to you if you do not take enough time to talk and get to know your partner’s friends and family. Some of the few things that friends and family could influence are financial decisions, development plans, getting children in your union.

Ala! I almost left this behind, very crucial! Get to know if you’re marrying a first born, the middle child of or the last born, child placement. They all have different character traits. Each placement look at issues differently, If a first born marries a fellow first born, these are meticulous people and perfectionists who don’t pave way for submission, they don’t have humility and these types of marriages always end up not working at all. The middle ones are the best peace makers despite being a petty lot and perpetual complainers. The fact that they’re peace makers makes their marriages work. Last borns are the laziest creatures who lack boundaries of choice of friends, they are reckless in sex and work and a bunch that never want to take responsibilities.

Take time to meticulously learn more about how birth placement affects how people view different issues. It could probably salvage a falling marriage if precautions were taken prior to your union. You are going to realize how unprepared you are the moment you go through this but good thing is, it’s never too late to learn. Are you ready to say I DO?

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Covid claims medic in Kenya

It is a sad day today on the 10th of July 2020 for the medical fraternity in Kenya as they loose one of their medic to Covid after contracting it while on the frontline rendering her services to pregnant mothers. Adisa Lugaliki has died a single mother at the age of 39, leaving behind 13 year old twins. She was a gynecologist who loved her work and from her colleagues and patients; she’s truly going to be missed.This is the first death case of a doctor since the first case of the novel Covid 19 was reported in the country.

The more reason as to why all of us have to, if possible must take care and avoid exposing ourselves to this virus is to relieve those in the frontline taking care of those that are positive. When we take care of ourselves and follow the directives stipulated by the Ministry of Health, we become mindful and take care of those in the frontline fighting the virus. We can play a big role in ensuring that the health facilities and workers are not overwhelmed, hence keeping them away from danger.

Photo of the deceased 39 year old Adisa Doreen Lugaliki, gynaecologist.

So far 292 healthcare workers have contracted the virus since the first case was announced in the country.